Romsey Abbey weddings are more memorable than most. Here's why: a thousand years of history, an uninterrupted view to the high altar that stops you in your tracks and friendly clergy who make you feel welcome.

As a member of its choir for 30 years, I have a strong connection to Romsey Abbey. So when Mike, a former chorister, asked me to photograph his wedding there, I was honoured. Like me, he'd always known this was where he wanted to marry. Some churches do that to you.

One of the great Norman buildings of England, Romsey Abbey idates from the 12th Century and is, in fact, he largest parish church in Hampshire. It's what remains of a late Saxon nunnery founded in the early Tenth Century by Edward the Elder, son of Alfred the Great.

History hangs richly in the air here. In 1946, the future Queen Elizabeth II was a bridesmaid at a wedding in this very building. More recently, generations of local families have chosen it for the same reason that Mike did: because nothing else comes close.

The church that makes you catch your breath

The nave's Romanesque clerestory rises three storeys high. Its Norman arches with decorated column capitals are a wonderful example of the style. It's almost the size of a cathedral, with a wide, high ceiling and quite a long nave. That means your photographer needs to be nimble to capture great photographs of the procession from every angle.

With stained glass in the east window as a backdrop, that aisle is like stepping into a film set. Walking back down it after getting married to Lily, Mike told me, was the highlight of his day.

Romsey Abbey also rewards creative photography outside. The north porch is a great place to display cathedral-length bridal trains, and the spacious green outside lets you pull back and show the full scale of this extraordinary building. Lily looked stunning in her Jacqueline gown from Marilee New York – ivory against ancient stone.

The service itself felt deeply personal. Lily's bouquet wove together olive leaves to honour Mike's Cypriot heritage, thistles for his half-Scottish mother and roses for herself as an Englishwoman — a quietly beautiful piece of storytelling.

Fittingly, current Abbey choristers sang at Mike and Lily’s wedding, adding musical lustre to the wedding service. It was followed by a confetti shower and a wealth of photos with friends and family in the South Garth.

Can you marry at Romsey Abbey?

The Church of England's rules about where you can marry have become considerably more flexible in recent years, and you may marry at the Abbey if you can demonstrate just one qualifying connection — from having been baptised in the parish to one of your parents having regularly worshipped here. Mike's connection ran deeper than most. That long walk back down the aisle, as the organ swelled and his guests rose, was everything he'd imagined since his chorister days.

For me, watching it happen through a viewfinder, it was one of those moments that reminds you why this building has been drawing people together for over a millennium.